Friends

“Life is partly what we make it, and partly what is made by the friends whom we choose.” – Tehyi Hsieh

Somebody put a post on Facebook this morning, I will quote it before I elaborate...
"An old military tradition is that true friends who have not seen each other for long periods of time, never question their friendship. These friends resume at the same time they left off regardless of distance and time between them. I call these friends Family. If you are lucky enough to have at least one military friend like this copy and paste to your status...I LOVE MY CHOSEN FAMILY!!!"

Now that being said, I am not Military, although some would argue I am more like "Militant" from time to time. I also have a lot of friends that are military or married to military or were and now retired. But, I think it applies to anyone who has known me over time. Some people I can talk to everyday, and then go time without talking, then pick up the phone and talk like we conversed yesterday.
I have a lot of people in my life that are like that.

Life Happens, people get busy, needs change, scenes change, schedules change, people don't have a lot of time, as we live in a go go go society, (Topic for another DAY),
I always viewed it like this, MY DOOR IS ALWAYS OPEN! You are welcome.
Sometimes, you have to turn the handle, most times it is waiting open, with the screen door closed because the dog will get out, and the flies will get in, nonetheless, the DOOR IS OPEN.

Now, the Facebook thing refers to military, but I think it refers to the type of person you are.

Words of advice, I have always had the Ambassador type attitude, HIGH SCHOOL GIRLS, you back me up on this... I NEVER affixed myself to ONE group, I didn't belong to the jocks, the scrubs, the stoners, smokers, new wave, rockers or anything stereotypical, I hung out a little bit with each group, usually meshing two unlikely groups together and having the best time. Some people might see me as not fitting in, but I saw it as morphing and changing, and experiencing everything with everyone.

Going back in time, I went from spending every Saturday in detention with Mr Atkins (and Kris KANE), to dating a straight A student, turning my behavior around, and went on KAIROS as Junior, and being a KAIROS LEADER.

I just remember not sheltering myself to any ONE THING. It did alot for me...I got invited to some of the craziest parties...Some of my old pals might chime in here and remember some of those parties...Dee Hesik, Denise Simon, Chris Malek, Bo Bolek
I also continued this practice until this day...I don't shelter myself to one group of friends, I have work family, military family, softball family, baseball family, HIGH SCHOOL FAMILY, MY MILLARD ST FAMILY...MY BLOCK FAMILY (OLD AND NEW).
Childhood, adolescent, high school, adulthood, middle aged, time marches on...some of you have been there since I was in Diapers, others just jumping in, THANK YOU!

I have wonderful people in my life. I always thought WE ARE IN EACH OTHERS LIFE FOR A REASON. WE learn from one another, help one another, laugh, cry, feel, and sometimes are forced to look at ourselves. We are supposed to be in and out of each others life, as that is life.

I am really LOVING FACEBOOK, as it gives us a chance in our GO GO GO LIFE (topic for another day), to look at each others lifes, share pics, share thoughts, share prayers, share laughs, grief, and happiness on a DAILY BASIS! Some of us even HOURLY!!!

I am hoping we all have a little of this in us...
Song of THE DAY-----------> Simple Minds~Don't You FORGET ABOUT ME

A Storm is Brewing

So, did you ever feel like you were gonna blow your top, that all this emotion is brewing inside, and you want to let it out, but you keep stewing and stewing, and when the time comes for the storm inside is to erupt...something happens and it blows over...or what's healthy is that is storms, heavy downpour, maybe even some lightning and thunder for effect, if really needed...hail...maybe you cause some destruction in your path, maybe crush a couple of things, but overall...once it blows over and released, then there is sun, or light.. think about it...

Joys in Life

So, Find a little Joy in your life today...Let it be in a hobby, let it be in something you accomplished no matter how small the task, let it be in puppy breath or the smell of a newborn baby. Find the joy, think that no matter how tough things get, be it an exam, a work project, health, relationships, doesn't matter what is hard, look for the joy that surrounds daily.
I chose the joy for today, to be this flower, I planted this flower and it grew..It is really pretty and smells great.
Ok, and I love my computer and IPAD too! Ok, and my Iphone, and reading books, and hanging out with friends, and my doggie, the sun shining and a breeze blowing.
OK, what a about a good joke.....

The Beginning~ "You RUIN EVERYTHING"

Why do people BLOG? They Blog because they want to be heard, maybe by a lot of people or maybe not by anyone, but anything to release everything you are thinking but do not say.
Todays frustration BOILS over, and needs to get out.
It's always been a dream of a mother to have happy well adjusted children....GIVE IT UP NOW. Unfortunately it is better to rid youself of silly expecations, that way you are never disappointed.
We meet the "man of our dreams" we marry him and hope for happily ever after...then LIFE Happens. You can't predict it, even plan it. Things happen, people change, get sick, and some people even die, ruining the ultimate expecation that you will live "Happily Ever After".
The best, is to live in the moment, and hope you lived well. Treated others the best you can, do the best you can, and try not to give into the blahs.
The way I see it, if I can sleep at night, and maybe even a dream or two, then I guess I am doing ok.
Sometimes I can honestly say that I am just trying to get through every day without crying. If I let everything get to me, I would be in tears most hours of everyday. So how do you keep from cryying.....you laugh. Try to find the beauty of a moment, the irony of a moment, the humor of the moment, and take it in. I try to keep music in the forefront of my life. I try to take in music and relate to all types that mean something to me. Sometimes putting on music and crying makes me feel the best. They say crying cleanses the soul, I have got the cleanest soul in the world. But I doubt I will ever be done crying.
I was told today by my 18 year old daughter that I RUIN EVERYTHING... There might be some truth to that. I was also told I don't do anything for her, except pay tuition and for her phone. She hates me. It's true, I get up in the morning and think how I can ruin stuff for the day. Once I figure out what I am going to ruin for the day, I make my "To Do List" then go about the day and just ruin stuff and cross it off my list. I think that is what most mothers do. We don't do much else, who has time, between ruining this and that....
Take everything for face value, I will honest in my assumption that this time around, I haven't earned my way into Heaven, I will return to earth and give it another try.
Life isn't easy, it is what it is, just do it, live it, like or hate it, it just IS.
SONG FOR THE DAY......THREE DOG NIGHT~JOY TO THE WORLD~